7/30/07

Thank You, May I Have Another?

When our family started this blog we decided it would act as a journal for our family. With that being said not all journal entries are happy and positive, however when looked at it the right frame of mind they can help teach and mold us into the individuals that our Heavenly Father wants us to be. Back in the days of Toro Football, we had to memorize a saying, “Fire melts wax, hardens steel” The application meaning adversity or trials separate the week from the strong. Well, our family has dealt with our share of adversity lately that has tested our strength. We fully recognize the importance and even acknowledge the fact that trials are a part of our Heavenly Father’s plan, and indeed are blessings in disguise. Lately just when we have found our selves thinking the sun is starting to shine again more trials present themselves. It has been tough yet as our family looks back over the past few months we are realizing even more how much our Father in Heaven knows us and is very involved in our growth as sons and daughters. Last night we spent several hours in the ER dealing with unexplainable complications involving Alysen’s pregnancy. In the beginning the doctors told us that they believed that she was experiencing a tubular pregnancy, however in the end she simply miscarried. This is the second time we have experienced a miscarriage, however this time was much scarier and very different than the first. On the way home from the hospital late last night, my rock of a wife started to talk about how blessed we are and how thankful she was for this and that. I started thinking about the past few months and kept thinking “when it rains it pours” but as I was able to put things in a little better perspective I started to think very much about section 121 of the Doctrine & Covenants. This is the section where Joseph Smith pleads with the Lord regarding all the suffering and persecution. He asks the Lord where art thou and how long shall thy hand be stayed. The Lords reply is humbling, “My son, peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment; And then, if thou endure it well, God shall exalt thee on high; thou shalt triumph over all thy foes. Thy friends do stand by thee, and they shall hail thee again with warm hearts and friendly hands.” We are indeed grateful for the trials and pitfalls that life gives us and even more grateful to our wonderful friends and family that support and help us through our darkest times. I know we all have trials and hard times through out life and I pray and hope that Alysen and I can be the support to all of you that you have all been for us.

14 comments:

Jen said...

Dane and Alysen, I am so sorry about the pregnancy. But thank you for having such a positive outlook on things. What a great example to those around you.

Webb Family said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You both are so positive! I'm glad Alysen is okay.

THE SEELEYS said...

OK, so I finally stopped crying about my experience yesterday and started crying about yours.

You two have such a great outlook on life. We love you and are so excited to be part of your "family".

Crazymamaof6 said...

i am so sorry to hear of your loss. you seem to be handling it so well and with great perspective! there is nothing worse than having a miscarriage and then having to tell everyone afterwards. i guess there are way worse things but it put this in my top five! i hope you guys are well and know you will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Amy Yetter said...

I'm so sad for you. Amid the joys of life there are always pains and you both seem to know that all too well. Thank you for your perspective on life.

On a happier note... I love the pictures of the first day of school and Daddy needing to say goodbye. What a great dad!

Jenny Dahl said...

It's not often that you can honestly say "I know what you're going through", but this time I do. Never an easy trial to swallow, but I have found myself being more grateful for the beautiful and healthy children that I do have. Hope you too are finding comfort in a very trying time. I'm thinking of you.

~The Kunzlers~ said...

We are both so sorry to hear about this turn of events. We know you are faithful and that you will take this and learn from it and grow though it. We hope you are all healthy and well. Thank you for sharing your BLOG with us. Ours is at shelovesher3ickyboys.blogspot.com

Shannon said...

I an so sorry about your loss. We went through a similar experience last year and your perspective is so amazing. Go give those three cute kids of yours a big hug. It sure helps in times like this.

Lindsey said...

I am so sorry. What a great outlook you have. I hope you are feeling better.

mommyx5 said...

I am so sorry.

ZB said...

We are so sorry for your sudden loss, but thank you for sharing the lessons that you've learned. After tearing up from reading that post, I'm so impressed with your great trust in the Lord. What an awesome example you are. Hang in there, you will be in my prayers.

~The Kunzlers~ said...

Thanks for visiting our Blog... We are so excited to be moving on. Each move has been such a great experience that I know this will hold great value as well. We are hoping to get into gilbert. Where in gilbert I'm not sure. Matt is leaning towards Power Ranch and I am looking further into town?!?! The best is yet to come that's all I know~ We'll keep you posted. I hope things are settling down. How are you guys?

onehm said...

Sweet Chaffee Family,
So sorry to read this tonight. I am so impressed with Alysen's courage and amazing outlook. I know everything happens for a reason, but boy is it difficult for me to see when I'm standing in the middle of it. Thanks for being such great examples.

Adam - Janet - Owen - Caroline said...

Dane & Alysen: We are so sorry to about this news. It's definitely not easy to go through, as you well know. But, your wonderful attitude will certainly make the difference. Know you're in our thoughts and prayers.